jupiter235:

bri-ecrit:

soyeahso:

glumshoe:

soullessblondbitch:

glumshoe:

glumshoe:

Is there anything more nauseating than ‘expensive heterosexual wedding’ culture?

My dream wedding: outside, illegal fireworks, shoes are optional, mostly potluck, someone’s dressed as a wizard, I get to insult my relatives, hopefully some live music.

Dude,if someone has the money for such a wedding and fucking enjoys it,why do you care?

Well, it’s less about the money spent and the waste created than about the cutthroat culture of Expensive Heterosexual Weddings. I don’t have much sympathy for people who spend more than the price of a college education on single day, just, like, in general, but ”huge expense” often goes hand in hand with a deep need to make sure that everything – and everyone – is Absolutely Perfect.

You may have seen the viral screencaps of train wreck weddings in which guests are given nightmarishly unreasonable expectations of time, clothing, gifts, and behaviors. Those are funny in their disturbing absurdity, but they’re just the extreme end of the kind of toxicity and entitlement that pervades wedding culture. I’ve known so many bridesmaids who have been shamed and humiliated for not being perfect supermodels in time for “dream weddings” – they’re not skinny enough, their teeth are too yellow, they can’t afford to spend hundreds or thousands of dollars on gowns, etc. It ends lifelong friendships! Brides go on starvation diets and burst blood vessels in their eyes from purging, people go into years and years of debt, families blow all their finances on weddings that aren’t even fun because everyone is stressed with ensuring absolute celebrity perfection…

I don’t like them! I hate watching people, especially young women, ruin their psyches on trying to achieve some kind of storybook Royal Wedding because they feel That’s What Weddings Must Be.

My addendum was a joke about Bilbo Baggins. I only posted it to see how many people would recognize the reference.

A lot of people can’t actually afford it and start their marriage in massive debt without anything solid to show for it other than some photos and the fleeting privilege of flexing on their friends and family.

My faux-princess, basic-white-girl, thoroughly-middle-class cousin talked our 80-year-old grandmother into mortgaging her house so she could have the expensive Pinterest fairytale wedding she wanted. I’m still livid.

And in a few years, those people that wanted those massive and stupidly expensive weddings are going to be filing for divorce, and they’re probably not going to even be done paying for the wedding. 

slytherinpokegirl:

The only people to blame for children under the age of 10 having “addictions” to smart phones, tablets, and technology in general is the parents. I don’t want to hear people complain about their 4 year old knowing how to play with the settings on their ipad. You put the iPad in your kid’s life. You gave a 4 year old their own ipad. They learned to use it. You did that. It’s your fault. Don’t blame kid’s for poor parenting, incompetence, and laziness when it comes to raising children.