realisticrecovery:

anyway, abusive women are just as bad as abusive men.

sweetschizo:

sweetschizo:

Schizophrenic/psychotic people are especially vulnerable to various types of abuse and we need to talk about it.

If you’re used to doubting your own perceptions and relying on other people for reality checks, you’re much more vulnerable to gaslighting.

If you’re already paranoid, people can easily fuel that paranoia and use it to further isolate and control you.

If you’re delusional or hallucinating, people can manipulate you further into your delusions/hallucinations and use them to control you and abuse you.

If you’re used to ignoring your instincts because they’re rarely reliable, you might accidentally ignore som very real red flags.

If you rely on a person to take care of you, you may be forced to ignore mistreatment because you don’t have other options.

If you struggle to communicate with other people due to thought disorders, disorganized/atypical speech or lack of speech (alogia) you may struggle to speak up and ask for help.

If you have a psychosis spectrum disorder of any kind, it can be used by your abuser to invalidate and dismiss you if you do speak up against your abuse.

So please look out for your schizophrenic friends, relatives and acquaintances – cause we can’t always look out for ourselves.

It would mean a lot to me if you’d consider reblogging this as schizophrenics are usually the ones painted as dangerous and scary, and it’s important to me that people as many people as possible see that we’re usually the ones who are vulnerable and scared.

kipplekipple:

trenching-timelord:

kipplekipple:

I can’t believe this needs to be said, but…

– Withholding medication from a disabled person is not a joke, it’s not a punishment, it’s abuse.

– Withholding mobility equipment from a disabled person is not a joke, it’s not a punishment, it’s abuse.

– Withholding stim toys, comfort items or similar from a disabled person is not a joke, it’s not a punishment, it’s abuse.

– Stopping a disabled person from using harmless routines or coping mechanism is not a joke, it’s not a punishment, it’s abuse.

Stop.

Same goes for communication devices.

Sorry, absolutely right. And for refusing to let someone communicate using sign language.

clonedroids:

Because I feel like kids of color don’t hear it enough: domestic abuse is not a part of your culture. 

A lot of us were raised with the idea that “its normal for wives/children to get hit! it helps them learn– only white folk don’t get beaten when they misbehave”. That’s not true, white people aren’t the only ones who deserve a safe and abuse free environment. Black and brown people can and do have loving families. 

If you’re in a situation where you are enduring abuse and people use your culture to justify it, I want you to know that what they’re telling you are lies.

my-mind-muddle:

“There’s people who have it worse.”

Ok. Listen.

Of course abuse is worse for some people than to other people.

If you burn your arm. It hurts. Like it really fucking hurts.

B u t.

If you burn your finger, it also hurts. It still really fucking hurts.

They both hurt. The arm seems worse because the surface of the harm is larger compared to the finger, but that doesn’t mean that burning a finger is painless.

If you tell someone: “there is someone, somewhere who burned an arm”.

That won’t fucking heal their finger.

Those situations don’t cancelled each other out.

The thought of someone burning an arm, doesn’t mean someone can’t burn a finger.

waterandsilver:

Unfortunate reminder that domestic violence in England goes up by 26% when England plays and 38% when they lose.

For anyone who needs it tonight, the national helpline for domestic violence is 0808 2000 247 (it’s free and available 24hrs). Please consider sharing this even if you’re not an England fan.

missmentelle:

In 1938, a stage play called “Gas Light” debuted for the first time. The play is about a husband who gradually convinces his wife she’s insane by acting strangely and secretly manipulating objects in the house – like dimming the gas lights in the attic – and refusing to acknowledge that they’ve changed. Today, the term “gaslighting” is used to describe any behaviour designed to make another person question their sanity. 

Gaslighting is abusive behaviour. Any person who tries to make you doubt your own sanity does not have your best interests at heart. Gaslighting is a tool to keep you in an abusive relationship, and prevent you from reaching out for help. 

In its weakest form, gaslighting means convincing you that you are misremembering or exaggerating something that happened. “I never said it like that, you’re exaggerating!” or “You’re making it sound worse than it was!” are common examples of gaslighting. At the end of the conversation, you might even find yourself apologizing to the other person, even though you were pretty sure that they were in the wrong. This sort of thing can happen in a normal relationship, especially if one or both parties aren’t very self-aware, but it’s a concern if it happens all the time… especially if only one person seems to have a faulty memory.

Gaslighting can also mean convincing you that events didn’t happen at all. Your abuser can absolve themselves of responsibility, and keep you in check, by convincing you that abuse never took place. “We never had a fight at my brother’s wedding… are you feeling okay?” or “I’ve never thrown anything at you in my life! Do you have a fever or something?” are more serious examples of gaslighting, and they are absolutely not okay. If someone is trying to convince you that a fight or episode of abuse never happened, that’s a huge red flag that cannot be ignored. 

At its very worst, abusers may go out of their way to stage strange events in order to confuse their victims. An abuser trying to keep a victim in check, or socially isolate a victim, may go out of their way to act strangely in order to make their victim doubt their own mind. Abusers may steal things from you, disappear for days on end and claim that they told you where they were going (or deny being gone), or mislabel your reactions as they’re happening (eg. pretending that you are irrationally angry when you are actually calm). These are also huge red flags, and cannot be ignored. 

Gaslighting is not unique to abusive romantic relationships: it is also common in toxic parent/child relationships, sibling relationships, friendships or school bullying. Anyone who mistreats you can gaslight you. 

The best defense against gaslighting is self-confidence, and careful recording. Trust in your own mind. You know when you’ve been abused. You know your own reactions. And write things down – keeping a careful record of abusive incidents and what was said or done gives you a record to consult when someone else gets in your head. 

Gaslighting can make it especially difficult to recognize and leave a bad relationship, and no one deserves to go through it. Know the signs. Protect yourself. You deserve better.