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God loves you but His love does not automatically equal approval or affirmation
Actually it does! His love does not come with terms and conditions. He would not disapprove of the people He created for being themselves, for being the way He created them and for living their lives happily being that way.
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In the survey, I essentially asked people who identify anywhere on the aro-spectrum/ace-spectrum to share how they feel about PDA in LGBT+ spaces because I’ve often seen non-aspec people say that aspec folks are very against PDA in LGBT+ spaces and actively try to prevent it. I’ve never personally experienced this or met anybody who has, so I made this survey to ask aspec people how they actually feel.
Here are the results so far!
Out of the 84 people who responded, nobody was against PDA in LGBT+ spaces! The majority of respondents (67.9%) say they support it.31% of respondents said they support PDA even though it makes them uncomfortable. One respondent added their own answer, “I don’t care, you do you, have fun.”
Here are some of the individual responses: Respondent 4, who identifies as arospec and asexual: “I’m uncomfortable with all kinds of PDA due to trauma, but I wouldn’t stop people from kissing/holding hands in an lgbt+ space. If it went on for more than a moment or two and I was having a really PDA-repulsed day, I’d go to the bathroom or get some water or something. If I knew I wasn’t doing so well trigger-wise that morning, I’d probably have stayed home
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Respondent 7, who identifies as aromantic and asexual: “I support common acts of affection like kissing/hand holding/etc., but acts that border on sexual like intense making out/ass grabbing/etc. make me uncomfortable.”
Respondant 74, who identifies as aromantic and asexual: “I am romance/sex-repulsed personally, but obviously I would not try to make people stop, especially in a LGBTQ+ space designed to allow for PDA.”
Respondent 84, who identifies as aromantic: “romantic pda can sometimes make me feel uncomfy, but it’s usually more straight pda than gay pda, and i think gay people 100% should have a safe place for pda.“
So, there you have it, friends! 84 people is a relatively small sample size but I think the trend is clear: generally, aspec people are not against PDA in LGBT+ spaces.
My reaction to romance is a lot like my reaction to moths. I can admire it from afar and say ‘hey, that looks cool!’ but if it tries to come near me I start screaming and flapping my arms.
I don’t know I feel like it’s a lot more like my reaction to bees. When they’re far away, or nearby but they don’t look like they’re coming towards me I love them, but when they try to come to me I just stand there stiffly praying that they’ll go away.
For me it’s much more like butterflies. I see one and think it’s so pretty omg I want that to be me but then I find out butterflies (romance) dies after one day and oh well
this post is one hell of a mood and i love/hate it
Aromantic person: “This person is my life partner. No its not a romantic relationship. I wouldnt mind raising kids with this person and having a joint account and buying a house. I still do not experience romantic love. Y’all got the life partner part right? From me? Who also has, y’know, best friends and regular friends and acquaintances and knows what the difference is? Here. I wrote it down for you. “Partner”. At least in my case. I can’t make it any clearer.”
tumbola: SO HAHA THATS JUST YOUR BEST FRIEND OK THATS JUST FRIENDSHIP RIGHT QPPS DON’T EXIST”
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